ravan: (single candle - dreamingcrow)
( Oct. 1st, 2011 11:04 pm)
I can't go to them. I set my alarm... and sleep through. One time I literally slept through the day. I misplace times, dates, addresses related - so unless someone else tracks them, I lose it.

I think my subconcious aversion comes from the type of Christianoid or religious stuff that goes on, plus the empathic overload from everyone there. I don't deal well with the way our society doesn't deal with death.

Have a wake, have a party, that's a little better. But usually, I'll drink at home, alone or with a couple friends, to the person's memory.

Needless to say, when I kick off, celebrate. Celebrate the fact that I lived past my 21st birthday, past my 50th birthday. Celebrate the fact that I have had fun times and good friends. Don't let the preachers near it, though. My soul and afterlife are my business, not theirs.

Also, don't kick yourself like I do if you can't get yourself to go. I'll understand.
ravan: by Ravan (Default)
( Jan. 2nd, 2011 07:08 pm)
I recently read two posts about fires in one day.

One, 5 people died in an apartment fire, and a friend of mine knew and cared for them. There was one survivor, injured also. The whole story was tragic, and shudder-worthy. This made me cry.

Another had a better ending. A friend who had just moved into her new house heard the commotion and called 911 for a fire at one of her new neighbors' house. She had already headed for bed.

The holidays and New Years are always a little more risky with fire, it seems. People get caught up in the season, and forget the risks.

Christmas trees top the list. Last year, I watched a video of a Christmas tree go up and engulf a living room in under a minute (it was a demo, no people). It still was shocking. Artificial trees may not have that nice pine smell, but they aren't tinder with ignition sources attached to them, either. If you have to have a "real" tree, keep it moist, and throw it out after New Years. Either type should have the lights on a switch and a timer. Don't leave tree lights on while you're out or asleep. Have a combo wood/electrical type fire extinguisher between the tree and the door.

New Years firecrackers are next. Don't play even with the "poppers" inside. Don't use them near people's wooden houses. I love pyrotechnics, don't get me wrong, but not near shake roofs, thank you. If you are set on playing with bang bangs, keep a fire extinguisher handy.

Fireplaces are third. Sure, they have brick casements and chimneys, but unless you keep stuff cleaned out, and the chimney swept, tar can build up and ignite. Plus, if you don't have a screen or grate, a slightly wet log can pop and launch sparks onto your carpet. Don't have a "roaring fire" unattended. A fire extinguisher is a great thing to have between the fireplace and the door.

Kitchens and heaters rate next. Don't use your oven to heat your house while you sleep. Don't use space heaters that can tip and ignite stuff, or go *krizz* and burn up while you're away. If you can see a red heat element or flame, don't leave it on when you're not in the room. Again, fire extinguishers are not just for garages. Smoke detectors can be useful if set properly in your kitchen, so that you know if grease catches fire.

Finally, I have to address smoking. I'm not going to preach at people to quit, either tobacco or 420. Hypocrisy isn't my thing. But try to smoke outside, with proper ashtrays. If you can't do outside, then don't do it in a bedroom or anywhere that you might fall asleep. If you doze off while watching TV, then stand up to smoke. Don't just sit it in an ashtray and let it burn (why waste the money, if nothing else.)

The long and short is, if you have anything flammable around, keep it away from sparks and other ignition sources. If you decide to burn it, do it in a safe place, in a safe manner, and with an awake, aware attendant with a fire extinguisher handy.

I probably should have made this post a month ago, although most all of you know this stuff.

Please, be careful, and be glad for the time you have your friends and family.
ravan: by ravan (stormclouds)
( Nov. 28th, 2008 11:45 am)
Wal=Mart Employee Trampled to Death by Customers - you mean "Animals", don't you??

The person wasn't even a Wal-Mart regular - he was a temp agency employee, probably desperate for the work. I know when I had to take that type of job during the holidays I was. I hated it, and I hated the people coming through. They were rude, nasty and mean animals.

My heart goes out to his friends and family. I think everyone in that crowd who stepped on him or pushed the people in front of them deserves to be charged as an accessory to murder. The store manager who was responsible for setting up the security and crowd control, as well as his being assigned there, should get the full murder rap.

Lesson: Stay home on "Black Friday". If you work retail, make sure you have armor between you and the great unwashed hordes. The life you save may be your own.
ravan: by Ravan (Default)
( May. 18th, 2006 02:53 pm)
So, it turns out that Leigh Ann ([livejournal.com profile] motogrrl) was married to an old, old friend of mine - Caitlin ([livejournal.com profile] hyla_regilla). This I had not known.

I knew Leigh Ann was in around the pagan and fannish communities, and in fact attended many of the conventions and events as I did. I even attended her concerts and rituals, and enjoyed her music. But we never conversed much. She hung with the Berkeley crowd, and I tended not to. I seldom travelled up that way, because two hours driving each way on a weeknight or even a weekend was not really doable for me.

I had been hibernating the last 11 years, mostly due to my having become hemiplegic (the anniversary of my surgery and stroke is May 16), and being less "able" to do things. So I missed the changes.
ravan: by Ravan (don't worry be happy - by shantidove)
( May. 17th, 2006 01:34 pm)
This post is triggered by several unrelated posts, including one about an accidental death.

I've mourned at least 5 people in the past year, and over a dozen since 2000. Some died slowly, some instantly, some after a long and fruitless struggle to get effective treatment. Some I knew well, some were kin, some were friends of friends or acquaintances.

Some folks are very uncomfortable discussing mortality, either their own or someone else's. Not me, not anymore. Read more... )
ravan: by Ravan (single candle - by dreamingcrow)
( May. 17th, 2006 09:32 am)
... So live to the fullest.

A well known Bay Area filker, Leigh Ann Hussey, was killed last night in a motorcycle accident. I will miss her at local filk get-togethers.

The short version is that she lost control and was run over by a truck. Now, many people have heard me make comments about setting things up at work and all to be able to go on even if you got run over by a truck. This was not a suggestion, however.

Anytime we head out on the road, or stay in, we endure risks. The gods and we roll the dice, and what comes up is according to the odds we have made. We take what precautions we can, of course, but life is ever truly "safe". Even tucked snugly in your own bed you have risks.

So we mourn when the odds take someone. We also celebrate that they died as they lived, unafraid, taking precautions, but ultimately chosing freedom over obsessive, paralysing fear.
My step-father, Bill, passed away today after a long illness. Again, his death was expected, and he lived far longer than the doctors anticipated, partly due to the persistant advocacy and care of my mother.

Bill was also a Lion, and by trade a carpenter. He had several kids from a previous marriage, and he made my mom happy.

So I'll tip a glass this New Year's to Bill. Rest in peace, you've led a full life, and made a difference in someone else's.


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