ravan: (single candle - dreamingcrow)
( Jul. 26th, 2025 05:18 pm)
...Has left the building.

SJ Hersha, aka Datawolf, died sometime between midnight last night and 11 this morning. The hospice nurse declared ToD to be 12:10 pm.

Our 12th anniversary would have been on the first of August. But we'd been together for decades. IIRC, they moved in with me full time in 1990. We met in late 1987, at a science fiction convention (Octocon, IIRC.)

I'm still pretty numb. This was the natural end to being on hospice for cancer. They died at home, not in pain. For the last day or so they weren't really here. The last words I said to them was that I loved them.

I don't know if/when the celebration of life will be.
ravan: by icons r us (flamethrower - icons r us)
( Jun. 19th, 2024 10:44 pm)
Well fuck.

The first type of chemo failed, and put my wife in the hospital for a week in May.

We have now gone through two second opinions, and none of them will pull the thing out - "it's too risky" - the tumor is wrapped around the nerve root. Plus the next chemo is even more toxic.

They tell us that her time remaining is measured in months, not years. At this point she can't even really travel.

I hate cancer, and I hate Kaiser for slow walking this whole fucking thing.

And my heart is breaking.
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ravan: head banging on desk (desk_headbang)
( Feb. 23rd, 2024 10:15 pm)
So this round of chemo was worse than the last one. The second bag of stuff caused painful muscle spasms. I'm just hoping it does more damage to the fucking tumor than it does to her.
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