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I got a phone call from my sister in il.us this afternoon. Grandma (in fl.us) had been having (medical) trouble since thanksgiving, and was concealing it from my mom (understandable, because my mom tends to blow shit way out of proportion.) So mom had to take her to the hospital, where she's had/is having surgery for a massive kidney infection.
Mom is taking care of her hubby who is bedridden from a stroke. Grandma tends to deny problems as much as mom inflates them. Sis can't go running down to FL.US because she has 3 small kids, and even if her hubby could get the time off from work, he is disabled and wouldn't be able to keep up with the youngest, who is at the curtain climber stage.
If I go down there, it puts my work search (which is desperate now) on hold. I have my share of the rent through February - March we're on the street unless I make ~ $800+ after tax in February.
If I don't go, I'll be too preoccupied to find work anyway, and probably have to deal with trying to manage the family BS long distance. Plus the fact that there is probably some mystical reason that I happen to be out of work when this happens...
Sis will pay for plane ticket, if I can go down, but I can't spring for a rental car, mom's two are in sucky mechanical shape (just like her house and life), and a stick shift besides. So I would be dependant on mom for transport, which would also suck a lot, since I want to throttle her half the time.
My mother is in worse financial shape than I'm in, and nothing is ever her fault, and she has some big reality problems. Yet she tries to give me advice on how to handle my financial troubles. Her idea of a solution is selling some dipshit supplements from a homebased pyramid scheme. Nevermind that she's a harder person to get along with than *I* am!
I love my mother dearly... 2000 miles away.I don't want to get dragged into her dysfunctional world. I have a hard enough time to keep from sliding into it as it is.
The odds are I will go down there, because I adore my grandma (her birthday is the day after mine). I will have to try to handle *two* very pigheaded women (plus all their neighbors and shit) without adopting their world view, or looking for a gun.
What's worse is that if grandma dies, I'll have to go down there anyway so mom doesn't totally mismanage grandma's property (trailer and land). Needless to say, I should probably start looking for work in fl.us.
I'm flat out of financial wizardry, out of ideas on how to make money, and I wish that the Bushies hadn't fucked over the economy so bad that I can't just handle it without having to worry about whether I'll have a home to come back to.
Why me??
Mom is taking care of her hubby who is bedridden from a stroke. Grandma tends to deny problems as much as mom inflates them. Sis can't go running down to FL.US because she has 3 small kids, and even if her hubby could get the time off from work, he is disabled and wouldn't be able to keep up with the youngest, who is at the curtain climber stage.
If I go down there, it puts my work search (which is desperate now) on hold. I have my share of the rent through February - March we're on the street unless I make ~ $800+ after tax in February.
If I don't go, I'll be too preoccupied to find work anyway, and probably have to deal with trying to manage the family BS long distance. Plus the fact that there is probably some mystical reason that I happen to be out of work when this happens...
Sis will pay for plane ticket, if I can go down, but I can't spring for a rental car, mom's two are in sucky mechanical shape (just like her house and life), and a stick shift besides. So I would be dependant on mom for transport, which would also suck a lot, since I want to throttle her half the time.
My mother is in worse financial shape than I'm in, and nothing is ever her fault, and she has some big reality problems. Yet she tries to give me advice on how to handle my financial troubles. Her idea of a solution is selling some dipshit supplements from a homebased pyramid scheme. Nevermind that she's a harder person to get along with than *I* am!
I love my mother dearly... 2000 miles away.I don't want to get dragged into her dysfunctional world. I have a hard enough time to keep from sliding into it as it is.
The odds are I will go down there, because I adore my grandma (her birthday is the day after mine). I will have to try to handle *two* very pigheaded women (plus all their neighbors and shit) without adopting their world view, or looking for a gun.
What's worse is that if grandma dies, I'll have to go down there anyway so mom doesn't totally mismanage grandma's property (trailer and land). Needless to say, I should probably start looking for work in fl.us.
I'm flat out of financial wizardry, out of ideas on how to make money, and I wish that the Bushies hadn't fucked over the economy so bad that I can't just handle it without having to worry about whether I'll have a home to come back to.
Why me??
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where in .fl.us? I have family down there who might know something about the job availability situation.
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