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We visited N yesterday...
Advice: Do not, repeat do not, walk into a room full of unhappy, grieving pagans around someone who is terminal and unable to talk and try to "listen" telempathically. It doesn't work. And even if you don't make the mistake of opening up to try to listen, make sure that your empathic shielding is at full.
I was prepared for maybe two others, not *six*. That's what I get for being out of practice. Being a more sensitive touch empath on top of it doesn't help either. People wonder why I'm not a touchy, feelly person. Now you know.
I developed a minimal touch philosophy ages ago - in response to the general emotional load I would get off of people.
OTOH, it was nice to see some people I haven't seen in a while. After having the ritual (which sort of came together ad hoc as several normal Pagan Standard Time folks actually arrived *earlier* than they said they would), some of us went out for a light meal at a nearby deli.
Hospitals are bad enough for empaths, but "grief clusters" are worse. And I really, really hate funerals, even when I don't know anyone. Unless I can get firmly into a detached, "I am here to help others cope" mode (which takes anywhere from 8 - 24 hours prep and meditation time), I end up bawling like an idiot.
Yes, I'm one of those weirdos who cries at sad points in movies, and it's far worse if others are around.
A group of us visited N yesterday. She did recognize us, but is still unable to speak clearly. A letting go ritual was held (no lit candles due to oxygen present), Beyond this there was no real change in N's appearance.
Blessings, G
Advice: Do not, repeat do not, walk into a room full of unhappy, grieving pagans around someone who is terminal and unable to talk and try to "listen" telempathically. It doesn't work. And even if you don't make the mistake of opening up to try to listen, make sure that your empathic shielding is at full.
I was prepared for maybe two others, not *six*. That's what I get for being out of practice. Being a more sensitive touch empath on top of it doesn't help either. People wonder why I'm not a touchy, feelly person. Now you know.
I developed a minimal touch philosophy ages ago - in response to the general emotional load I would get off of people.
OTOH, it was nice to see some people I haven't seen in a while. After having the ritual (which sort of came together ad hoc as several normal Pagan Standard Time folks actually arrived *earlier* than they said they would), some of us went out for a light meal at a nearby deli.
Hospitals are bad enough for empaths, but "grief clusters" are worse. And I really, really hate funerals, even when I don't know anyone. Unless I can get firmly into a detached, "I am here to help others cope" mode (which takes anywhere from 8 - 24 hours prep and meditation time), I end up bawling like an idiot.
Yes, I'm one of those weirdos who cries at sad points in movies, and it's far worse if others are around.
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-- L
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Helping others cope is a good thing, granted, but it shouldn't be forgotten that helping oneself cope is every bit as important, in a different way.
(I'm reminded here that text isn't the greatest communication medium in the world.)
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BTW, growing up an empath around a bunch of repressed people is no fun... it is still there, seething under the surface.