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My friend N has been in the hospital for over a week since her stroke. Each time we hear something, the more unreal she seems to be. She now is of the opinion that she can just sign herself out of the hospital, and go home (and be cared for 24x7 by unseen servants??) She can't reliably transfer from her bed to her portapotti.
Having been in a hospital with stroke patients, I know they won't release her until and unless she can transfer independantly, and is safe alone. If she needs round the clock care, and a forklift for every time she blows a transfer (300#), she's going to stay in the hospital, or be shifted to a nursing home.
She's complaining, of course, and making life miserable for her hubby G, as well as the staff at Kaiser. She is also heavily in denial, and wants someone (else) to "fix" her problems and make her whole. I want to slap her - when I visited her last Friday, all I heard was "I can't" and "poor me, they're so mean" type crap.
Gods, when I was in the hospital after the avm and brain surgery, I didn't have any such delusions, and I was *worse* than she is!! She never lost mobility in her right side completely, but it is "unreliable" - she has to think about making it work, and practice to bring it back (which she won't do because she "can't rely on it"). She whines because I had all of the therapy at Stanford, and she's at dumpy Kaiser, but even if they did have inpatient therapy they wouldn't take her because she's uncooperative!!
I can't fix it, no one seems to be able to get through to her, and we don't have enough able bodied people available to do any 24x7 shit, so why do I feel guilty?
Having been in a hospital with stroke patients, I know they won't release her until and unless she can transfer independantly, and is safe alone. If she needs round the clock care, and a forklift for every time she blows a transfer (300#), she's going to stay in the hospital, or be shifted to a nursing home.
She's complaining, of course, and making life miserable for her hubby G, as well as the staff at Kaiser. She is also heavily in denial, and wants someone (else) to "fix" her problems and make her whole. I want to slap her - when I visited her last Friday, all I heard was "I can't" and "poor me, they're so mean" type crap.
Gods, when I was in the hospital after the avm and brain surgery, I didn't have any such delusions, and I was *worse* than she is!! She never lost mobility in her right side completely, but it is "unreliable" - she has to think about making it work, and practice to bring it back (which she won't do because she "can't rely on it"). She whines because I had all of the therapy at Stanford, and she's at dumpy Kaiser, but even if they did have inpatient therapy they wouldn't take her because she's uncooperative!!
I can't fix it, no one seems to be able to get through to her, and we don't have enough able bodied people available to do any 24x7 shit, so why do I feel guilty?
