Since when...

[ravan]

... does the fact that's it's a family member that I disagree with mean that I mustn't make it public?
... does the fact that I have a different religion and lifestyle mean I must be silent about it, and not object when it is attacked?
... does the fact that I am in a minority mean that I must be humble and quiet about it, while a different strident minority of a majority religion is allowed to spend milllions pushing their views into the public sphere?
... is wanting equal treatment under the law "special rights"?
... does objecting to false and ignorant assertions by someone constitute a "vicious personal attack"?

Get this: If my kinsman can blog about the "evils" of homosexuality, gay marriage, abortion, anti-war sentiment, removing "under god" from the pledge, ad nauseum, I can (and will) blog about what I find wrong with his spew, and how disappointed I am that he advocates such hurtful and mean spirited views.

I don't ask anyone to bless it. After all, he did not ask my permission to write his screeds against me and my friends. Why should I forbear in writing against it? Since when do I owe him any more (or less) courtesy and tolerance in my writings than he shows for me and mine? After all, doesn't everyone like to be labelled as mentally ill by their own kin? (Yes, he's one of those.) Would you be "tolerant" of someone who wanted to treat you like you were insane because you have a different worldview and lifestyle? I think not.

Gods, I am disappointed and disgusted. Happy holidays. My own family supports institutionalized hatred and subjugation of me and mine, and then viciously criticizes me and tries to guilt trip me for objecting. Can't you feel the love??

Comments

[redsonja.livejournal.com]

If this is the way you deal with stress and tragedy, and this is consistently the way you purport to "love" your daughter, then I feel sorry for my friend. You are a screaming neon sign that says "codependent control freak".

You don't give ravan herself or any of her schoolteachers credit for the person she is. You sit there crowing "I made her what she is today!", and yet oddly enough it's not quite what YOU wanted, is it? You seem to have a real problem with that for all that you claim otherwise... seen it before; nothing she does will ever be good enough unless she's doing EXACTLY what you want. The rest of your family can be as cruel, ignorant and abusive as they want and ravan is just expected to suck it up and be nice. Screw that.

I know that you are going to have something else to say on this because obviously if you are the sort of person who tries to micromanage your daughter so much that you attempt to get this involved with her LJ friendships, that's the kind of person you are. Well, you want the last word? Have it, because I am so done with you, lady. I wasn't talking to you in the first place, and you've already taken up too much of my time. I'd say "have a nice life", except that'd mean you'd have to get one first - one that wasn't being vicariously lived through your daughter.

[jemyl.livejournal.com]

There is so much elephantshit and projection in your post that I will not even comment on it. Ravan has always been good enough for me. If she says otherwise, it is her idea and one she has not checked out with me.

I only see Ravan about once every ten years. We communicate little. I like it that way and so does she. I believe it is counterproductive to have to listen to what a terrible parent I was and how I want grandchildren and how Ravan can't satisfy me when I have actually asked nothing of her except to attempt to get along with her sister and family for one day in ten years. I actually ask the rest of the family to suck it up and not rile Ravan a whole lot more because she is the one who has had a hard knock or two these past few years.

May you have a peaceful yule.