WTF??

[ravan]

Well, apparently because I'm a member of childfree, and because I was annoyed, yet amused, by someone who decided to wank and whine on them, a friend has decided to remove me from their reading list.

This actually upsets me.

Why? It's not like I post all kinds of CF stuff here. I don't understand. Because I oppose stereotyping all childfree as bigotted assholes (even though some truly are)? Because I am offended by drama wanks and such who spew those stereotypes at me? Because I don't like chickenshits in any community (as opposed to personal journal) who like to dish it out but can't take it, and I like an occasional flambe session?? Because I'm a member of (at least one) community that has some very immature members? Or because I sometimes write about political and work stuff from a CF perspective?

OK, some of the angry epithets used by the hardcore childfree types are downright nasty. I don't use them, and just tend to roll my eyes when I read them. Which ones are the nastiest is a matter of personal opinion. But I don't tend to use them here. Why? It's a slang used in a certain subculture, and just plain not appropriate for general use. The same applies to other slang used in other subcultures - pagan, fannish, etc. That and some are just... stupid, crude, or unfunny.

Yes, I'm childfree. I disapprove of bratty kids, and their negligent caretakers. I am horrified by child abuse and neglect. I also love my neice and nephews, and enjoy seeing kids that are well raised. I understand that no kid is an angel all the time - I sure wasn't.

If you don't like childfree, or cf_hardcore, don't read them, please, it will only piss you off. I don't read right wing conservative (e.g. conservatism2)or pro-bush (e.g. community4bush) communities for the same reason.

Comments

[kshandra]

I disapprove of bratty kids, and their negligent caretakers. I also love my neice and nephews, and enjoy seeing kids that are well raised.

Agreed.

I have no beef with people who consciously choose not to bring a child into this world, nor with people who consciously - and, more to the point, conscientiously - choose to have a family. (One of my Rocky-era friends is now a mother of four...but she and her husband sat down well in advance and determined that they were in a position both financially and emotionally to support them. I don't know how she manages it, but I respect the way she went about it.)

I will admit I wound up de-f'listing someone late last year, shortly after f'listing them in the first place, after the second time zie used childfree slang in zir personal journal - and to my shame, I wasn't overly polite about it. But again, it is a question of personal comfort level, and repeated exposure to that particular terminology exceeded my boundaries.

[ravan.livejournal.com]

But again, it is a question of personal comfort level, and repeated exposure to that particular terminology exceeded my boundaries.

True. If I used CF slang here, and someone was uncomfortable with it, I really wouldn't have a right to bitch if they chose not to read it.

Even though this is my journal, I do try to be considerate of the sensitivities of my readership. I've already had one reader, last year, angrily delist me, not because I used CF epithets, but merely because I was CF. That really irked me.

If I was going to post rabidly CF stuff here, I'd put it in a CF filter, unless I felt it was fit for truly public consumption.