So...

[ravan]

My mother reads my journal. She knows my pseudonym, I told her years ago. Apparently, she has taken that as permission to complain viciously about what's in my journal, even though she and others are not mentioned by name.

Well, guess what?? I'm almost 42. I don't need anyone's permission to rant about my family in my own journal.

I have taken pains to protect the privacy of people I discuss:
1) I only name people by role or initial. The exception is if the person is *dead*
2) Even when I mention people, I don't give last names.
3) This journal is posted under a pseudonym, to further protect the privacy of myself, my friends, and my family.
4) I don't even mention where I work, to protect privacy there, too.

I don't mind if friends and relatives want to read my journal to know what's going on with my life. It's something I can steal a few minutes out of my schedule to write, and point people to who may care. But they don't tell me what I can write.

I write in this journal to try to develop a habit of writing, and my own "voice". This means I will rant, expound, kvetch, wonder, or wax sarcastic.

If you think that my writings about my family and friends can somehow be used as a club to whack me or them with, think again - for one, I may actually be no relation. I have a couple near doubles out there, with very similar lives.

If you think that you can tell me what to write about or not write about, you are cordially invited to run onto the nearest freeway and engage in intimate relations with the biggest semi truck you can find, without lube.

Comments

*Chuckle!*

[dubhain.livejournal.com]

You go girl. ;)

Isn't the passive-aggressive two-step a fun dance?

Frankly, I can't see why your friends (of which I'm one) or relatives (of which I'm not one) should really give a damn about what you write, other than how it relates to you personally.

• You're posting under a pseudonym, and dammed few people know how to link it with your RL identity



• You're better about only posting initials or roles than I. I frequently will post first names (only), if there's no negative or potentially negative content involved.



• Everyone kvetches about their families and their friends, and doing it online is nothing unusual. The idea that someone would complain vociferously about being mentioned in a pseudonymous journal without having your name listed in the first place simply boggles the mind.




Post whateverthehell you like about me (and others) in your LJ, for all I care. Just do me a favor and make sure it's either true factual information or true opinion. And if I think you've your head planted soundly up your anatomy, don't flake-out all over the place if / when I call you on it.

To quote a (non-psycho) ex-girlfriend: "Joke 'em if they can't take a fuck."