ravan: by Ravan (Default)
( Jul. 31st, 2013 01:24 pm)
Getting married tomorrow. Aug 1 is the anniversary of our DP, so we put the wedding on the same day.

Small, local ceremony officiated by a friend. No big anything. Probably a reception at a later date (at a SF&F con, natch.)
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ravan: by icons r us (flamethrower - from icons r us)
( Apr. 14th, 2013 04:10 pm)
It cost me $564 to get my taxes done this year, because of DOMA and Prop 8. If those two things weren't there, I'd make an honest woman of DataWolf, and do the (joint) taxes myself for a cost of ~$150.
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It's bad enough that S. and I will have to *pay* someone to do our taxes because the federal government refuses to recognize same-sex pairings, but California does. California is a community property state, so even if the Feds don't agree, CA requires married type filing.

Now I see this, after setting aside a shit-ton of cash for our joint medical expenses:

Health Care FSA

Eligibility Rules
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"Per tax law, expenses for domestic partners are not eligible."


Mother fucking fuck!!! I have already spent $1300 out of that this year for dental work for S.

Now I might have to "pay it back", even though it's my fucking money!

Nevermind that California says it is for both of us, the bigots in Congress trump it. Whatever happened to "full faith and credence?" Can the bigots in Congress so blithely wash that away with the stroke of the Bush bigot's pen? Oh, the "strict constructionists" in the Supreme Court aren't very "strict" when it clashes with their ideological (religious) bigotries.

Seriously, I am beginning to once again start hating anyone who belongs to what passes for a "Christian" church these days. I want all of those homophobic and/or misogynistic people to stick their heads in the toilet and *flush*. Between their fucking war on gays and the war on women, they need to be prosecuted as a hate group. That includes the anti-abortion and anti-gay bastards in Congress.

I am sick of this shit. Handmaids Tale was a dystopia, not a fucking manual!

Why don't those mother fuckers learn to mind their own business when it comes to people's personal lives? I really don't give a fuck what their angry little god who thinks he's king of the hill, and his preachers, says about gays or fetii. I just don't - it's not theirs to say. (All the other gods laugh at the deluded idiot anyway.) They are such hypocrites when it's them or their families that they should be ashamed to show their faces in public.
ravan: by Ravan (Default)
( Oct. 18th, 2010 07:48 pm)
[livejournal.com profile] ladyqkat pointed me at Things I Don’t Have to Think About Today by John Scalzi. He very nicely touched on racial, ethnic, religious, gender, sexual orientation, ablism, and other privileges that those who have them don't ever think about. There are more good ones in the comments.
Read this: A Note on Personal Responsibility.

Humans, in an primal hunting pack like feral yappy dogs. Each individual does little, is even weak, but as a mob, they can run anyone down, exhausted. Like water on a stone, each tease, taunt, spit, poke, kick, vandalism, mockery, etc is just one more drop in the same place.

That's what bullies are, safety in numbers, each able to disclaim responsibility for the damage they wreak on people's lives, the scars they leave on people's souls.

They feed on it.
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I'm glad I never lived in the dorms. Some days my fellow humans make me cry...

Rutgers, Friends and Family of Tyler Clementi Mourn Suicide

just because I didn't kill myself, doesn't mean I didn't feel like I was dying

This type of shit is unusual in its absence, not in its presence. It's the bullying that all gay, bi and trans kids go through, even now. More if they're fat and/or geek - it's additive, not either/or.

Most turn it inward. Many die by their own hand. Some turn it outward.
The tides of time and justice flow against them. All of the bible thumping, science denial, and sheer homophobia are an evolutionary dead end. They fear what they can't control, what they can't shame, what they can't bend to their and their small, petty God's "will".

Now, I'm bi, I could "choose" to be "straight", but reality isn't that way. But I can pass if I want to, be the "high yeller" of the LGBT spectrum. Others can't. When a man is only attracted to men, he can't change it. If he could, our society wouldn't have uncloseted gays - any sane person would chose to be straight, if they had a choice.

But the person I love is female, not male. Also, all of my full gay friends have rights too, rights that the stupid desert religions can't believe away.

This nation was founded on the principle of equality, even if the founders fell short of that ideal themselves due to their own cultural blind spots. In the end, equality and love will conquer the bible based hate and fear.

We need to speak out, gay and straight, on how gays marrying strengthens our communities, our families, and our nation.

We need to secure the favorable tax codes, inheritance rights, housing rights, hospital visitation rights, medical decision rights, and legal testimony rights that now *only* accrue to "married" hetero couples. These rights are just not there with "civil unions" or "domestic partnerships" - they just aren't. It's not only separate, but decidedly unequal. Anyone who really thinks about it knows it. But the churches lie to their parishioners, saying "oh, but they have civil unions, its the same, but marriage is sacred". They don't really understand that gays are cheated of some of the "meat" of marriage rights.

If civil unions/domestic partnerships are so equal to marriage, then all these whiny religious gits wouldn't mind giving up state sanctioned marriage entirely, would they? They could keep "marriage" as a purely religious matter, and any legal benefits would be associated with civil unions. But if you suggest that, they whine, saying "it's not the same", then turn around and tell us again that it is "equal".

This isn't over. However, if you are against gay marriage, please, remove yourself from my "friends" list. I'm no longer willing to be "tolerant" of any viewpoint that wants to deny me and mine their rights. Tolerance doesn't mean doormat, doesn't mean open headed acceptance of everyone's bullshit, doesn't mean allowing bigots and bullies to make the rules, doesn't mean swallowing someone else's dictates and morals as binding on anyone else. I'm tolerant, not a pushover.

If you don't approve of gay marriage, don't marry someone of your own gender. But don't even dream that you have the right to make me live and love by your fucking religious rules. No more nice gay.
ravan: (Blog Against Theocracy - tengrain)
( May. 6th, 2009 01:27 pm)
Vermont, Iowa, DC, now Maine. Why is Californika so backward? Massive political propaganda efforts by the LDS and Catholic churches.

How do I get a ballot prop to shitcan Prop 8 on the ballot in 2010?? Something like:

"SECTION 1. Title This measure shall be known and may be cited as the "California Marriage Equality Act."

SECTION 2. Change Section 7.5 of Article I of the California Constitution, to read:

SEC. 7.5. All marriages between two consenting adults are equally valid and recognized in California. "

If this won't pass, then remove the word "marriage" from all California state laws and Constitution. If "marriage" is a religious institution to be "protected", then it has no business in US or State law, because of the First Amendment. If it's civil, then religious biases against it are moot.
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